“If you gain 3 kilos, all your problems will go away.”

“I truly believe that if you gain 3 kilos, all your problems will go away.”

That’s not something I EVER expected to hear from a doctor. Especially a very experienced professor in Endocrinology, highly recommended by a few of my other specialists. Especially after I had explained in detail over the course of an hour that I had always been this shape and that the rest of my family was the same.

I’ve always been a skinny girl, and trust me, it’s not from lack of trying to gain weight. My diet has consisted of carbs and chocolate since I was a little girl. Pasta, bread, potatoes, bagels, rice, they’re all my favourite things! I’ll choose a burger or a pizza over a salad any day! And yet, here I stand, 172cm and 52 kilos.

Growing up I had several doctors ask me if I eat. And that ALWAYS confused me so much. Of course I eat, what a ridiculous question! In fact, I never stop eating! I graze all day long, and that’s never changed. Though when I look back at photos, I do see why they were concerned at the time. I was VERY thin.

But looking at myself now, I don’t think I look sickly skinny to the point where a doctor would blame all my health issues on a measly 3 kilos!

When my health first took a turn for the worst, I lost 6 kilos. I dropped down from 54 to 48 kilos. It was noticeable to everyone and I often heard people talking about how thin I’d become. But there wasn’t much I could do about that. My GP told me to eat whatever I feel like whenever I feel like it to try put the weight back on until I could yet my appetite back.

And I did. I became a huge fan of cheesecake, and relished in the idea of being able to eat it all day guilt free. And I put 4 kilos back on. Back to an average weight for myself. Awesome! Now if I could gain those extra 2 kilos back, it was really just a bonus, but no biggie for the moment.

So when I finally saw this professor, back at my normal weight, and explained all this, hearing him tell me that all my health issues would go away if I gained an extra 3 kilos brought up a lot of questions for me.

Why 3 kilos? If I’ve always been this weight but been healthy previously, why is my weight an issue now? Are you really allowed to promise me such a thing? Are you dense?

All those questions and more were running through my head. It was absurd to me! And yet, when I got home and mentioned this seemingly crazy doctors prognosis to a few people, they agreed with him.

WTF?!

Suddenly everyone around me was telling to me gain weight and then I’d feel all better, watching what I ate and telling me to eat more. Like I hadn’t spent years trying to gain weight with no success, like I could just force myself to shovel in more food, like my metabolism would just change in an instant. Had everyone lost their god damn minds?! I couldn’t figure out what on earth was going on.

But later on I realised. These people care about me, and saw me go from a healthy and energetic 28 year old, to a sick girl who barely had the energy to go to work, kept ending up in emergency, had shed 6 kilos in no time at all, and suddenly had a whole other list of issues that no one could understand or explain. And they hear me come home and tell them that a doctor gave me an answer, and they clung to it. I understand that.

What I don’t understand is a highly experience professor making false promises to a woman with health issues simply because it would hurt his ego to admit he couldn’t figure out what was going on. What’s more is that it’s dangerous for a someone in his position to ever do that without the relevant tests to back up that claim, and to rule out anything sinister.

Guess what Dr Dense, I went to Fiji and gained those 3 kilos, and not one thing changed (shocker.) If anything, my health has deteriorated in the last year since I’ve seen you.

It truly scares me that he dismissed me so carelessly. How many other people has he done this to? With a reputation like his, I like to hope it’s very few. But with a reputation like his, it makes it all the more dangerous if he was saying this to other people. Other people who might believe him and not look further into their health.

There’s two things I took from that experience. Doctors are human and make mistakes too, and second opinions are not only acceptable, but crucial.

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